I was an adult when I learned of a Non-Newtonian fluid. Do you know what they are? Or even what a Netownian fluid is?
Growing up I do not remember this ever coming up while I was in school. What are they? Defined by Merriam-Webster Dictionary a Newtonian fluid is a fluid whose viscosity does not change with rate of flow. Huh? Basically no matter how fast or slow it’s going the resistance to flow; it follows all of Newtons laws on how liquids should act.
Then what is a non-Newtonian fluid? According to Science Learning Hub it is defined as fluids that change their viscosity or flow behavior under stress. If you apply a force to such fluids (say you hit, shake or jump on them), the sudden application of stress can cause them to get thicker and act like a solid, or in some cases it results in the opposite behavior and they may get runnier than they were before. Remove the stress (let them sit still or only move them slowly) and they will return to their earlier state. Think of slime or cornstarch and water. They can ooze around and take the shape of any container they are placed in but still act like a solid under situations.
Why does any of this matter? Because I feel like a non-Newtonian fluid. Many people have heard me say ” I am like water, what do you need?” Yup I am really good at morphing into just about any roll, some better than others. Please do not take my ability to transfer my position/roll to fit the situations needs. I have adapted well to many scenarios and truth be told I am at my breaking point.
I am being pulled in so many directions like to many kids pulling on silly putty to see how far it can stretch, there is not much left to hold me together. This does not mean I am brittle and about to break, on the contrary, we non-Newtonian fluids fold back together after being broken, unlike Newtonian fluids. We are more versatile and can make a lot happen.
Now the question is, in what shape and form will I take next?
“One must learn how to live. Not just make a living, but how to find a path of beauty in this life. We begin by knowing who we are.” Powhatan Chief Wahunsunakeh
Found this quote over 20 years ago while in High School. Something about it always captured my attention and helped refocus what was important. While I was in high school, my oldest sister learned calligraphy. She wrote this saying out and framed it for me as a graduation present. That frame traveled with me to college, to my first apartment, my first condo, stayed with me while I navigated my path of teaching in Juvenile Justice Commission. Somewhere along the way I lost that frame and my path.
My life took a drastic turn in my early 30’s. Something that scarred me worse then I realized. Mostly because I never realized how much I kept in from my earlier years too. Though it was that event in my early 30’s that knocked me off the precipice I was climbing.
Don’t misunderstand some amazing things happened in my 30’s. I met my partner, we now have two amazing kids, a home we are proud to have people come to and I found out which paths were not meant for me, no matter how hard I worked on traveling them, something always held me back. Turns out they just were not the right path of beauty!
Soon after turning 40, I started direct sales business and really working on carving out time to write in addition to my full time job and spending time with the kids. The world of direct sales is tricky, it definitely is not a passive income many tout it to be! If someone is claiming passive income, run away, it’s a scam! What it did for me was open my eyes to another path to take, one that allows me to use my renaissance style skill sets to make my path!
Don’t get me wrong opening my eyes to seeing the possibility of this path is not easy, nor is it main stream so many people in my worlds are skeptical at first. But once I show them the possibilities and run cost figures to profit in addition to explaining I am not leaving my full time income ( yet 😉 ) they come on board. Helping me navigate this path and being an amazing sounding board is another Momma and lifetime long friend, Joanna. She and I talk almost everyday, even if just sending funny meme’s to say hi. Recently we decided to read a book, Defying Gravity: A celebration of Late Blooming Women by Prill Boyle. This book helped me have some major “Ah-ha” moments. Most importantly it reminded me it’s never to late to find my path of beauty and really know who I am! For almost 10 years I tried to become what others thought I should be or what I thought others thought I am , convoluted right? Yet I was not true to myself. That is changing. #fortiesandfabulous is not just a hashtag, it’s life. To all my other Late Blooming Women. we got this and the world better watch out, we are strong, determined, and have each other’s backs!
Recently I had the opportunity to take a two day one night solo trip for a sneak peek at the new products and catalog for Tealightful launching in September. It was not something I ever did before and was intrigued by the possibility. Not just the sneak peak, but meeting other people like myself who are trying to turn a passion into an income. It defintely helped me confirm I made the correct choice in joining this company.
The others I met while at the retreat where all amazing. As I never met anyone of them before, nor did I know anyone attending ( I do not have a TEAm) I was nervous I would get the cold shoulder. The you do not belong to out group, your not welcome. That was not the case. In fact it was the opposite!
The ladies I met while in Rochester, NY greeted me like an old friend the minute we met at check in to the hotel. As soon as they heard I was also there for the Tea Retreat they invited me to dinner. When I mentioned I needed to see if they could accommodate my dietary needs ( I have Celiacs Disease) one of the group walked over to the restaurant and back again before I even finished checking in to confirm the restaurant was able to accommodate Celiac needs!
After a bigger meal than I expected of truffle chips, I went back to my hotel room to settle in and rest. I made the drive to Rochester, NY immediately after cleaning a home in New Hope, PA. What started as a scheduled 5,5 hour trip turned into an almost 6.5 hour trip do to traffic and rerouting. Yet the hardest part of my day was ahead, spending my first night away from the kids; something I had not done since before my now almost 3 year old daughter was born.
As soon as I returned to the room I called home to say sweet dreams to the kids. I missed them and was afraid C would be frustrated with putting both kids to bed. Surprisingly everyone was in good spirits. My 5 year old wanted to know if he would see me in the morning, which he wouldn’t, but told him I would be home in time for good night kisses.
After such a long day it was easy to fall asleep in a strange bed, and I still woke up at my regular time thanks to my internal alarm clock. I do have to say the sound of my daughters morning siren wale for a diaper change and milk was not missed one bit!
Once I made my way to the breakfast area where I met another solo attendee we met up with the rest of the group from the night before, and we got to meet Tealightful’s founder and CEO Charlene Phillips. She is even nicer in person! She greeted us all by name and it was not rehearsed. She truly was amazed that we were all there and was even a little flustered by it!
After some pictures of the group we walked to the Mansion where the tasting was taking place . Again, the details Charlene took were impressive, she personally spoke with the kitchen and main chef to assure all my food would be safe and had me and one other guest with a food sensitivity go first to get our food to make sure we were able to eat before the others could take or cross contaminate.
Then there was the tea . . . oh the tea! We were able to taste 4 of the new teas coming out this season. The one I am most excited for is the Eggnog Butter Rum! The Pumpkin Creme Torte was also vert tasty and will be featured at the Fall Open house I am hosting on October 7th. There was also a Holiday Berry, which was very good. It is not my personal taste with the licorice flavor from the star Anise, but I know others will love it! The forth tea we tried was Apricot Sunrise, which I plan on featuring at a vendor event in December, it is also very tasty white tea which means the leaves can be used up to 4 times making it a great value as well!
Egg Nog Butter Rum
Pumpkin Creme Tort
Ironically what I am most excited about this season are the accessories! There is a beautiful stone gray tea pot I have my eye on with matching tea mugs. There are “teaspoon” mugs that I not only want for myself but think will
make great teacher gifts with some tea and honey samples. Definitely going to watch my spending this season with all these wonderful additions!
After the tea finished, we took a tour of the mansion that houses a wonderful collection of Women’s suffrage memorabilia. Then it was time for goodbyes . . . or more appropriately until the next retreat!
The drive home was a little easier and only took 5.5 hours. Though there was a brief time when I got nervous when I GPS rerouted me avoid some traffic and took my through some mountain back roads and I was on empty. Thankfully I was able to fill up just before getting back on the highway and made it home just in time to get the kids ready for bed.
It was an adventure for sure, and one I will make again.